Today was my mom’s breast cancer surgery. How do you summarize the emotions and stress associated with this except to PRAY.
It’s a time like this that life stops on a dime and nothing else exists but your family. Everything you know as normal is not normal anymore. All of your family and friends send their love and prayers and you just pray you will be one of the lucky ones. Well, thank God we were one of the lucky ones. My uncle said it one of the best by saying “Knock, seek and the Lord will answer”.
Mom’s Breast Cancer Diagnosis & Surgery
My mom was diagnosed early from a routine mammogram that she tried to bail on but her long time doctor, insisted she have – God bless the doctor. Because of this very early detection, the cancer was just stage 1 and the tumor just .8 centimeters. Mom had a lumpectomy today and both the tumor and a lymph node were removed. The surgery was successful, the surgeon informed us the margins looked good, and it appears that we are in the clear. Amen.
The Day of Mom’s Surgery
My mom has always said to me, “spend your time making memories instead of writing about them”. This statement comes from the two years we spent writing our book together, Maze of Thorns. Our book is about hope and healing after an illness that almost took my life nearly 20 years ago. Life has it’s twists and turns, during that time, my Mom was my advocate, it’s now my turn to be hers. Mom being Mom even told me I didn’t need to take time off of work as “she would be fine” and this was “not a big deal”. Oh really, well it’s a big deal!
While everything was fine and probably would have been just fine without me, my Mom, Dad and I “spent our time making a memory”. Not all memories are all perfect, but they make us who we are and what we stand for. They make us the the parents we want to be and shape our character for years to come. It may be cliche to say but the “ups” are not so “up” until you experience some of the “downs” and experiencing them together as a family is one of the strongest bond in the world.
Making Memories with Dad
I wouldn’t have traded today for the world in terms of spending the day with my Dad waiting it out for my Mom from 9:00 am to 4 pm. The medical world has come along way in this waiting game, now you get a “buzzer” just like you get at a restaurant to tell you your table is ready, only in this case it’s “the next step in the surgery”. We got “buzzed” when she was in Pre-Op and spent that time with Mom before surgery making her laugh. We got “buzzed” again when the surgeon was coming to see us after her surgery to tell us how it went and when we could go up to recover to see her after. I got so used to the buzzer, I was wondering if I’d get buzzed for lunchtime.
Being the busybody I am, I brought a bag of books, blog journal, phone charger…etc, but ended up spending the entire day just goofing around with my Dad. We had lunch together, explored the hospital and de-stressed by goofing off. We make a video with the My Talking Pet App, sent it to my uncle and watched the video like 10 times, busting a gut laughing every time.
Soul Nurturing Moment
if you have a chance to spend great times with family DO IT! But, besides the vacations, birthdays and family reunions, have the courage to be there during these not so great times, you will find the greatest joy and fulfillment in your faith and family and deepen the love in your heart.
I am so grateful to all family and friends that texted, called, and sent messages on Facebook & Instagram.
Life is Grand.
Love and Laughter,
*Click here for the book Mom and I wrote called Maze of Thorns, and stay tuned for our upcoming events!